Sex in Virtual Worlds

Virtual sex can be a lot of fun, but good virtual love is really hard to find.

In a virtual world, the physical sense of touch is unavailable, so both parties must have really good imaginations, be really good with words, and be quick on their feet. Not many people are skilled in all three things.

I am no love vixen online, but I have experimented some in this domain. I have only had two really good love encounters in virtual worlds with people I do not know in real-life.

What is Virtual Love?

Making love can be described as a physical and emotional conversation between two or more people.

Virtual love tries to achieve that same physical pleasure and emotional intimacy across a far distance, and without the advantage of actual physical contact.

Virtual love has been frequently practiced over the phone, and more recently, over the internet.

With virtual love you are taking away a key component of what making love is all about, the physical nature of it. To make up for this, we replace the physical withmostly verbal, and some visual communication. In the future, the visual aspect can be enhanced significantly, which will do much to improve the online love experience.

For now, though, the verbal must be especially compelling, to create a comparable level of connection and pleasure as physical love. This is especially true if you do not know your virtual partner in real-life. If you are engaged in relations with someone you know, there is already a prior level of physical and emotional intimacy, and that intimacy can be transferred into the virtual medium.

Virtual phone love has a higher rate of success because, over the phone, you can at least convey mood and emotion through timbre of voice, moans, and other vocal expressions. The most difficult type of virtual love is one that is purely text based with some limited visual support as in an online game or environment.

Good virtual love may be difficult to achieve, but there are some nice advantages:

Do things that no one else can do, see things that no one else can see.

With virtual love, you can do things that you normally wouldn't be able to do, with people that don't exist, in worlds that are both beautiful and fantastical.

There was one experience I had, in which a shining paladin led me through the Celtic forest into a secluded clearing right next to a clear bubbling brook. The birds around us were singing, in welcome of spring; flowers were blooming, and the afternoon breeze created a rustling of leaves all around us. He removed his large sword and laid it down at my feet. Then he knelt before me ... it was a perfect setting for making love.

It is the safest way to intimacy next to abstinence.

Virtual love allows you to enjoy the emotional pleasure of making love without the associated health dangers and without the danger of an unwanted pregnancy.

Like James Bond, you get to experience a wide range of love partners without having to inquire about relationship history, health history, or fumbling around with protection. Everything can be spontaneous, natural, and free of real-world logistics.

It can help spice up your real love life.

An exciting virtual love life can help improve your real love life.

You get to converse with a large range of partners on love techniques and preferences. Foreplay is extremely important in virtual love, so you will learn much about flirting and the art of seduction.

Virtual love also gives you an outlet for your physical fantasies, which helps you appreciate real-life relationships more.

Steal some moves from the experts.

Romance novels are a great source of material. Their story lines are not very original, but they have very descriptive romantic scenes which are perfect for virtual love purposes. The characters may be stereotypical, but they are still very attractive, probably because they stereotypically embody all of the traits that many women desire. So pattern your online avatar and persona after a romance book hero.

Be pro-active and copy out relevant descriptions from the novels, and organize them into groups that correspond to the different stages of love making (e.g. foreplay, clothes removal, getting down to business, climax, and epilogue). This will help with easy retrieval during your virtual escapades. With this alone, you will very quickly become an online Don Juan.

Know your audience.

The more you know about your virtual partner the better the experience. Making love is both a physical and emotional connection, so the greater the emotional attraction, the greater the possibility of good virtual love.

If you listen and learn as much as you can, you will also be able to tweak your love making techniques to suit your partner's taste in terms of language, speed, and part(s) of the body you should focus on.

Don't expect too much, and have fun exploring something new.

Don't go in expecting it to be a really good love encounter. You will likely be disappointed. If you take it for what it is, something new, something fun, and a possible learning experience, you will walk away happy.

I have found that better virtual love partners can be found in more complex, more challenging online games.

A good example is Final Fantasy Online. With this MMORPG, it is difficult to reach the higher levels without a certain level of maturity.

Virtual love is a role-playing exercise so stick to the role-playing games and the role-playing servers.

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