How to Pick Sexy Underwear

Well chosen sexy underwear can add spice to your relationship and keep your man devoted and happy.

Here are some important things to remember when planning a captivating underwear fantasy.

Fantasy is Better Than Reality.

Regular underwear, even regular, hot underwear, is no match for themed underwear. If you are already going through the trouble of creating a night of fantasy for your man, you might as well make it a true fantasy with good costumes and good performances.

Racy themed underwear allows you to take on a totally different persona for the night. A new persona is exciting, alluring, and novel. It is also liberating. Once transformed, even you may be surprised at what you would do. This must be how Cat Woman feels when she puts on her black skin-tight outfit.

Racy themed underwear opens up doors to a variety of role-playing scenarios that will be fun for everyone and is sure to spice things up. Some favorite themes include the foreign exchange student, the hot doctor, the cowgirl, or the french maid. Find out what your man likes, and pick a theme that you know he will enjoy and remember.

Power and Vulnerability Are a Killer Combination.

Guys generally like some vulnerability in their women. Vulnerability makes men feel more protective over you, and lets them take on a traditionally, more manly role. But together with that vulnerability, a touch of danger and power will drive a man crazy.

Why are attractive models often used to advertise cars and motorcycles? Because the idea of a woman dominating a powerful machine is very captivating. When a man makes love and in a sense, dominates a woman, who is herself seen to be powerful, it makes the man feel stronger and more virile.

Playboy Bunny underwear is often a good choice because it says hot and vulnerable in equal parts. Just don't forget to complete that outfit by carrying a whip, for that added touch of power.

Variety is the Spice of Life.

A fantasy is no longer fascinating if it becomes a common occurrence. Just because something worked once, doesn't mean you should keep repeating it. Remember that in this case, familiarity definitely breeds contempt.

Many couples fall prey to a boring sex life, which frequently causes one or both parties to start looking for excitement elsewhere. Always try and surprise your man. Spice things up by getting a range of outfits, and mix and match appropriately. Don't forget to read up on new love-making techniques. The presentation is important, but so is the subsequent performance.

The Devil is in the Details.

Remember to take care of all the details. Creating a fantasy is powerful, but difficult, because one small detail can spoil the whole thing.

One area that many women forget about in their racy underwear outfit are racy shoes to go along with it. You may think that shoes are unimportant because very little walking will be involved, but shoes can really make or break an alluring outfit. High heels is a must, and if you can keep it on the whole time, so much the better. Make sure to practice challenging moves with your heels on. Tripping, falling over, and spraining an ankle is a definite turn-off.

Personal grooming is also crucial. Ladies, men do not like hair in the wrong places. When in doubt, less is always better. Bad breath, cracked nails, and a dirty belly-button can also quickly spoil the mood.

Ambiance is another detail that is frequently mismanaged. Lighting and audio are both important. Make sure not to pick music solely based on your own taste. You may appreciate a sappy Peter Cetera serenade, but consider that your man may not share the same sentiments.

Have a Plan.

An underwear fantasy may only last for several exquisite hours but it is important to have a long-term plan.

First of all, do some early promotion to build up anticipation. There is nothing worse than spending all that time and money to set up a hot event, and have nobody turn up. Make sure your man knows that something really good is coming, and make him crave it. Tease him with notes and provocative pictures, so that not attending is not even an option.

Finally, and most importantly, make sure that your own goals are fulfilled. Why are you planning this sexy underwear event? For a mutually fun experience? For that ruby necklace? Are you trying to establish a greater degree of intimacy that is currently missing? Are you trying to stop a roving eye?

Be honest with yourself. Identify your goals, prioritize them, and make sure your planned event helps to achieve some of those goals. At the very least, be in the position to gather important information for subsequent events.

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